MANAGING SELF WORTH

 

Hands up if you have ever felt like you are never good enough.. 🙋🏻‍♀️

I think all of us have felt like this some way or another. We wouldn’t be human otherwise. We live in a world where everyone has an opinion and not every opinion are the same, nice or positive. For instance, if I shave all my hair off tomorrow, some people will be impressed with my new look. Some would be much more accepting than others. And I can guarantee some would be totally against it and cry “Whyyyyyy.........” Or if someone told me to watch a particular movie because they really enjoyed it, I might not like the movie at all. This is what we call our SUBJECTIVE opinions. It is subjective because we are making decisions based on what we personally see and think.

“Subjective has feelings. Anything subjective is subject to interpretation, influenced by emotions or opinions.” 

To be OBJECTIVE on another hand, is to be unbiased. If you're objective about something, you have no personal feelings about it. It is an unchanging fact. For example, finger print analysis. Your date of birth. The earth is round. Etc. Being objective means that you have no bias whatsoever and you are only presenting the facts, not emotions.

 

Why subjective opinions effect us so much?Because we are not robots 💁🏻‍♀️ We are human with feelings. That’s why we laugh, cry, be angry, love, healed or wounded. And we need validations. As we grow and age, we are constantly either being positively or negatively influenced. And how we handle this will dictate our self worth. We feel happy and validated when others agree with us. Our self worth increases when we receive praise. But what about when the opinions given are the negative ones? It is unfortunate these negative opinions might have long lasting effect on self worth. Depression and sadness often stem from this. It robs the quality of our lives. When or should they become your facts? How do we stop living with negative impact on our self worth?

 

FACT CHECK!

Respond and deal in FACTS.

Be objective and look at the facts. For example, what should the reaction be if someone criticises your financial situation? Is it true that you are spending money you don’t have, or owing money you can’t repay? Fact check your bank balance. The bank balance doesn’t lie. Then it is up to you to accept the criticism and fix the situation if you value your financial freedom and want to change your situation. Sometimes we should welcome this type of criticism because when the fact is correct, it gives us an opportunity to create change which helps our self worth in the long term.

DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY. 

Often humans inflict their own fear and insecurities upon others due to what they are personally dealing with within themselves. I spoke about this before in my past blogs. Often it has nothing to do with us. We just get the brunt of it. The next time someone present their negative opinions that effect your self worth, stop and think. Are their opinions going to grow me into a better person? If the answer is no, then ignore and move on.

USE THEM AS A CHALLENGE.

Early in my group fitness career when I just started, I remembered one of my mentor sat me down and told me I should just forget about this group fitness gig. Now I must admit that the flair to be a natural extrovert on stage was not my strength at the time. And when they told me that I wasn’t going to be any good at it and that I should just quit, it broke me. All their negative words flooded in. Man, the scar was real!! For a few months or maybe even years I carried that opinion with me and believed that I wasn’t very good at it.

Well.. I am glad I never quit. I love group fitness so much that deep down I already decided that I was never going to quit. I was going to work my butt off and prove them wrong. I turned it into a challenge. As I got better at it and accomplished my short & long terms goals, my self worth changed. It gave me new attitude and perspective of what I am capable of with my teaching. Yes believe it or not, Challenges increases our self worth. And I love it when people doubt me. It makes me work harder to prove them wrong!

 

Finally, as you read this, you probably think.. "Well, that’s HER subjective opinions on self worth.” 
Hey that’s ok. We all influence each other somehow anyway - regardless whether it is in person or through the social media interaction. Nothing wrong with constructive honest feedback if we would like to give one. I will be the first one to do it!

I think the most important thing is to learn how to live with opinions. Filter them.

“Self esteem is built with self love and self respect. Be yourself and be proud of who you are."

Thank you for reading ❤️

P.s.. I am still shaving all my hair off one day.. It’s in my bucket list! 

It's a fact that shaving all my hair doesn’t change who I am inside! 
(For those who protest 😂) 

And it will be so coooooool!! 
(In my opinion) 🤘

Much love always!